I have to advise how to dispose of my gambling and redo my life

My father does not support my mother because my mother does not ask for it, but a part of my father only takes care of me.

I am 23 years old, work nearly 2 years. When I graduated, my parents divorced. The reason for my father, gambling addiction and betraying my mother for a long time. My mother bit my teeth until I graduated from college because I was afraid of my child and I had a job to care for my sister who was in 11th grade. Mother has suffered for many years, farewell, she will be happier.

After divorce, parents divided their assets and debts. My father baked it all into gambling, and went to the small house that was also sold. I was frustrated but could not do anything, saying it forever and forever. My father did not support my mother, because my mother did not ask for it, but a part of my father only took care of me. I changed my father to take care of me and my mother. As for mother, the present life is more fun, my salary is enough to spend for myself, raising my sister and repaying my mother's debt.

I was very angry and my father was angry but I was afraid to make my son think that when my father sold all his houses, the work was no good, there was no place to live, now and there, no relatives in the family are interested, and it is very painful. Loved my father but didn't know what to do? If not, I can't afford to worry about my father's strength. How should I advise him to find a way to redo his life? Looking forward to receiving advice from experts and people. Thank you.

You go to work for 2 years, but don't say how much income, whether the job is stable, so it's difficult to analyze to help you solve your questions. Because you are playing a major role in the difficulties of parents, your father is addicted to gambling. Those who fall into gambling addiction, the mentality appears unconscious, without the game will crave as "hungry ghost" mentally. So people can sell out their assets to satisfy. Also, because they are never satisfied, they will borrow if there is room for borrowing, if not possible to cheat, steal ..., no stops.

Solution of emotional psychologists: gently make the gambler out, but very little success. As for the psychiatrist's solution, let the gambler run out of money, control the gambler body to a minimum as just feeding, giving old and cheap clothes to avoid selling. Over time they restored their common sense, at which point they could help with normal life and do business. The after-addicted gambler kept seeing that, gambling was a spiritual emptiness. So be close and gentle to fill that unconscious void. To do so is a long process, requiring their relatives to pay attention and have a certain understanding of helping the addict to gamble.

Your mother takes care of her two children until you graduate and decide to divorce is a great effort. This shows that your mother is still capable of generating income. You said you paid the debt with your mother, that is, your mother owed. You go to work and use 3 items: yourself, raise you and pay your debts. This issue involves skills and financial planning. Do you need to calculate if you can leave a balance? If so, spend some time to take care of the meal, the dress.

Your father's money is all baked on gambling, and the small house is also sold, which means gambling addiction to the point of losing control. You are angry and your father is angry but still feeling sorry and suffering shows that you are psychologically confused. The first psychology is anger, anger, anger; The second mentality is that my father has no place to live; The third mentality is to blame relatives "nobody cares". If you do not release yourself, memory, anger, it will gradually become nervous inhibition in a state of stress, loss of lucidity, affect the belief in life, loss of labor capacity. Thuong is a very good feeling, but too much to worry about will fall into a state of frustration, easily leading to depression. Blame to cause psychological skepticism of life, not believing anyone, leading away from people. In your case it can lead to distant relatives - spiritual support, not physical support.

You do not have the right to "advise" your father. Your father's life is yours, don't do anything or say anything that offends you. What you can share is good, or "bitter" because heaven does not allow people to choose parents.

See if you can help me. When helping, I should not give it to my father, give it to my grandfather, ask someone who is reputable in my relatives and say, "I ask you to help my father," and then give the money, then say "Thanks to your father for help My father is addicted to gambling, so it is very difficult. I hope you help my father.

Good luck.